Content creator and social media influencer, Amarachi Amusi, popularly known as Ashmusy, tells FAITH AJAYI about her career, decision to freeze her eggs and other issues
Why did you decide to freeze your eggs at this point in your life?
I really wanted to secure my future as a mother. Motherhood is very important to me, and I want to be sure that I will become a mum in the future, no matter what happens. I arrived at that clarity after going through a few serious relationships that I genuinely believed would end in marriage, but they didn’t.
I also realised that many men these days are not emotionally available or emotionally mature enough to be husbands, no matter how promising they may initially seem. That made me understand that finding the right partner might take longer than I expected. Because of that, I decided to secure my future and play safe.
How did you first learn about egg freezing, and what kind of research or conversations shaped your understanding of the process?
I first learnt about egg freezing when Uriel (a former Big Brother Naija contestant) froze her eggs a few years ago. I saved the information somewhere because I thought it was such a smart decision. I told myself that no matter how complicated relationships become, at least she had secured a future chance at motherhood, and being a mother is one of the most important things to me.
Also, I did a lot of research. I asked doctors several questions, consulted ChatGPT, used different search engines and read extensively online. I discovered that it is actually a safe process used to preserve a woman’s eggs. The eggs are extracted from the ovaries and stored in nitrogen until one is ready to conceive through IVF or artificial insemination. I studied all of that carefully before making my decision.
What emotions did you experience before, during and after making that decision?
Before making the decision, I experienced clarity and acceptance. Earlier in life, I was convinced I would get married before turning 30, but when I turned 30 and it still hadn’t happened, I had to confront reality.
At first, there was panic, pressure and fear, but eventually I reached a point of acceptance. Once I accepted where I was in life, I found clarity and began to heal. That clarity helped me focus on the next step, which was securing my future as a mother regardless of what was happening in my love life.
During and after the process, I felt fulfilled, satisfied and genuinely happy. I felt relieved knowing that this important aspect of my future had been secured.
In what ways do you think freezing your eggs will impact your future, both personally and professionally?
It has given me peace of mind. I feel safe, secure and relaxed now. I can calmly take my time to find the right partner without feeling pressured by age or my biological clock. It has brought me peace, happiness and fulfilment.
How has the decision redefined your idea of motherhood?
It made me realise that, by God’s grace, I can secure one of my biggest dreams for myself, with or without anyone else.
However, it hasn’t changed my idea of womanhood because a woman remains a woman, regardless of whether she has children or not. But it has definitely changed my idea of motherhood because now I feel like a part of me already exists somewhere, waiting for me to protect and nurture.
Your recent trip to Zambia looked intense and exhilarating. What drew you to those high-risk activities?
It was simply the desire to explore life fully. I wanted the adrenaline rush, the excitement and the thrill. I just love living life to the fullest.
What did those experiences in Zambia unlock for you mentally?
They unlocked my bravery. I never imagined I could do some of the things I actually did there. These were activities I used to see online and immediately say, “God forbid, I could never do that.” But I did them.
Now I feel brave, powerful and unstoppable. I feel like a warrior. I genuinely feel like I can conquer the world after those experiences.
How did pushing your limits during that trip affect your relationship with your body?
It made me realise that my body is far stronger and more capable than I ever knew. It showed me that I can achieve almost anything I set my mind to. It felt amazing, and I have no regrets.
Would you say stepping into fear is now part of your personal growth strategy?
Yes, definitely. I feel mentally stronger and braver after those experiences, so I would say embracing fear has become part of my growth process.
You often speak about success with a lot of passion. How did watching your mother shape your definition of success?
My mother is my biggest inspiration. Watching her struggle to feed, train and sustain my siblings and I made me realise very early in life that I had no choice but to become successful.
What lessons from your mother do you consciously carry into your daily life?
She taught me that, as a woman, you can achieve whatever you set your mind to. Women are much stronger than they often realise, and no matter how difficult life gets, you can overcome it.
As the first child, how did childhood experiences shape your personality growing up?
I don’t know if I recognised it as trauma back then because it felt normal at the time. I carried a lot of responsibilities as a child, including taking care of my siblings, cooking, washing clothes and cleaning.
Sometimes, when I think about it now, I feel emotional because I realise I suffered a lot as a child. At eight years old, I already felt like an adult. It forced me to grow up too quickly.
At what point did you realise those experiences were influencing your present life?
Probably in my early twenties. That was when I became conscious enough to understand the kind of life I had lived and the responsibilities I had carried from such a young age.
What intentional steps have you taken to heal from that experience?
I have learnt to prioritise myself more. I rest more now, travel more and do things that genuinely make me happy, such as going to the spa or watching movies. For so long, I focused on carrying everyone else while neglecting myself.
How do you ensure your past does not dictate your present relationships or decisions?
I don’t think my past controls me because I am very open-hearted and optimistic, sometimes even to a fault. Even after heartbreak or betrayal, I still find myself giving the next person genuine love and trust.
I keep learning lessons every day. Sometimes, I tell myself I’ve learnt, only to make another mistake again. But that’s just who I am— open-hearted and free-spirited. Depending on how people see it, that can either be a strength or a weakness.
What initially attracted you to acting?
I have wanted to act since around 2010, maybe even earlier. But at the time, I had to focus on school and go through the usual auditions and casting struggles.
Eventually, I moved into content creation because it gave me more control over my schedule and opportunities. Still, I always planned to return fully to acting before my thirties, and that’s exactly what I’ve started doing over the past two years. So in many ways, I’m still just beginning my acting journey.
What kind of stories are you most interested in telling?
I love emotional stories because I’m a deeply emotional person. I am drawn to stories about love, betrayal, heartbreak, suspense and tragedy.
What does growth look like for you?
I want to produce more movies, explore different creative opportunities and fully showcase the talent and passion I have kept inside me for years.
How does creativity help you communicate deeper messages about yourself and your brand?
I try to create relatable stories, such as things I have personally experienced or witnessed in real life. Whether they are funny or emotional, I want people to connect with them on a real level.
When you’re creating, do you think more about expression or impact?
I think about both. Sometimes it’s balanced equally, while at other times, one matters more than the other. But, both expression and impact are always important to me.
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